Comments on: Debt, stress, weight gain=Unmotivation? http://www.girlndebt.com/debt-stress-weight-gainunmotivation.html Follow me on my journey to get out of this debt mess Tue, 31 Jan 2012 17:25:35 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: girlndebt http://www.girlndebt.com/debt-stress-weight-gainunmotivation.html/comment-page-1#comment-368 girlndebt Sun, 26 Apr 2009 19:48:33 +0000 http://www.girlndebt.com/?p=483#comment-368 Thank you both for the encouragement! Joanne-you sound a lot like me when I am at my best...very optimistic! I just got so frustrated because it is like...geese-I get over 1 hurdle and 2 more pop up! I will definitely take your advice about work. Now that I don't have all that debt over my head, I feel like the ball and chain that keeps me there is lifting. The job market is grim but I know I can find something soon if I put all my effort into it. The family stuff-you are 100% right on that one. The coughing is bad and is something new. His insurance should be kicking in soon and once it does-he is going to the doc to get it checked out. My husband and I sat down this morning and talked about everything. This was one of the first conversations we had that did not surround debt and bills! We are actually caught up and have some savings so it was a good conversation! We both agreed we need to hang in there to get caught up to where we want to be. Some of the struggles we are having now are just temporary. Thanks again for the advice! And Lois, thank you as always! I have been reflecting and I am pretty happy with how far we have come! You know I am pulling for you too! Thank you both for the encouragement!

Joanne-you sound a lot like me when I am at my best…very optimistic! I just got so frustrated because it is like…geese-I get over 1 hurdle and 2 more pop up!

I will definitely take your advice about work. Now that I don’t have all that debt over my head, I feel like the ball and chain that keeps me there is lifting. The job market is grim but I know I can find something soon if I put all my effort into it.

The family stuff-you are 100% right on that one.

The coughing is bad and is something new. His insurance should be kicking in soon and once it does-he is going to the doc to get it checked out.

My husband and I sat down this morning and talked about everything. This was one of the first conversations we had that did not surround debt and bills!
We are actually caught up and have some savings so it was a good conversation! We both agreed we need to hang in there to get caught up to where we want to be. Some of the struggles we are having now are just temporary.

Thanks again for the advice!

And Lois, thank you as always! I have been reflecting and I am pretty happy with how far we have come! You know I am pulling for you too!

]]> By: Lois http://www.girlndebt.com/debt-stress-weight-gainunmotivation.html/comment-page-1#comment-367 Lois Sun, 26 Apr 2009 16:45:35 +0000 http://www.girlndebt.com/?p=483#comment-367 You are just being wayyyyyyyyy tooooo hard on yourself. You have been thru so much as far as debt, family problems job loss, home loss and probably more. Give yourself some time and things will look better. There is no magic pill that when bankruptcy is over - all is wonderful and bright again. That is not realistic - life is just hard for a lot of people right now. The economy, the job market, housing, you name it!! So take this time and try to reflect on how far you have come. You are just being wayyyyyyyyy tooooo hard on yourself. You have been thru so much as far as debt, family problems job loss, home loss and probably more.
Give yourself some time and things will look better. There is no magic pill that when bankruptcy is over – all is wonderful and bright again. That is not realistic – life is just hard for a lot of people right now. The economy, the job market, housing, you name it!!
So take this time and try to reflect on how far you have come.

]]> By: joanne http://www.girlndebt.com/debt-stress-weight-gainunmotivation.html/comment-page-1#comment-366 joanne Sun, 26 Apr 2009 16:05:07 +0000 http://www.girlndebt.com/?p=483#comment-366 Honestly? I think the best thing you could do for yourself right now is let yourself off the hook for some of this stuff. It sounds like you have stressors on nearly every front in your life right now and need some mental space in which to decompress. Even machines can't run at 100% 24/7 without breaking down-- it's unreasonable to expect yourself to do so. Some stuff I'd do if I were you: *Table the make extra money stuff until July 1st and reevaluate at that point. When I don't have the time or energy for something, feeling like I ought to do it anyway doesn't get it done. It just makes me feel worse. *Keep reminding myself that I can't fix the extended family problems and that letting them get to me isn't going to help anyone. *Forget about losing weight until things are less stressful, and just focus on maintaining my current weight. *Try to get the husband to see the doctor. The exhaustion/coughing could be due to allergies and therefore easily treated. *Do some sort of daily formal communication thing with the husband so that we stay plugged in with each other. Write notes or exchange little audio recordings or something. *Keep looking for another job. Because (a) I would eventually find something if I kept looking and (b) whenever things are at their worst at work, I could remind myself that I am not condemned to be there forever and I am doing what I can to get out. Even when I can't change something, sometimes knowing that I am doing what I can gives me strength. Hope some of this helps! You've managed to get through so much in the last few years-- things that would be hard for anyone. I think that gives me faith that you can recharge and emerge from this time, too. Honestly? I think the best thing you could do for yourself right now is let yourself off the hook for some of this stuff. It sounds like you have stressors on nearly every front in your life right now and need some mental space in which to decompress. Even machines can’t run at 100% 24/7 without breaking down– it’s unreasonable to expect yourself to do so.

Some stuff I’d do if I were you:
*Table the make extra money stuff until July 1st and reevaluate at that point. When I don’t have the time or energy for something, feeling like I ought to do it anyway doesn’t get it done. It just makes me feel worse.
*Keep reminding myself that I can’t fix the extended family problems and that letting them get to me isn’t going to help anyone.
*Forget about losing weight until things are less stressful, and just focus on maintaining my current weight.
*Try to get the husband to see the doctor. The exhaustion/coughing could be due to allergies and therefore easily treated.
*Do some sort of daily formal communication thing with the husband so that we stay plugged in with each other. Write notes or exchange little audio recordings or something.
*Keep looking for another job. Because (a) I would eventually find something if I kept looking and (b) whenever things are at their worst at work, I could remind myself that I am not condemned to be there forever and I am doing what I can to get out. Even when I can’t change something, sometimes knowing that I am doing what I can gives me strength.

Hope some of this helps! You’ve managed to get through so much in the last few years– things that would be hard for anyone. I think that gives me faith that you can recharge and emerge from this time, too.

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